Showing posts with label Diversity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Diversity. Show all posts

Friday, March 12, 2010

Where Everybody...or at least Somebody....Knows Your Name

For three years, since moving to my current neighborhood, I’ve been going to the same dry cleaner. 

Three years.

For the majority of those three years I went to the dry cleaner two times a week.

Each time we did the same dance….

“What’s your last name?”

“Burns….B U R N S”

“And your first name?”

“Nora….N O R A”

All of this is done with little to no eye contact.

They would enter my order or, if I were picking up, pull my newly cleaned clothes and hang them on the rack by the register.  I provide my credit card and the next week we repeat the same process.

With little exception I talked with the same three clerks each week. 

At around the 16-month mark I started wondering when the clerks would remember my name.

At the 24-month mark I started making little bets with myself as to if they would remember my name.

“What’s your last name?”

“Burns….B U R N S”

Two months ago I was talking with a friend at a cafe.  The conversation turned to customer service and how the benefit of being a “regular” (as we both are at that particular cafe), is that the staff recognizes you, greets you by name and generally knows what you will want.  They typically go the extra mile to provide outstanding service in recognition of the many visits you’ve made to their establishment.
I share the story of my dry cleaner and how I’ve been seriously considering finding a new one.

Small world – my friend knows the owner of the dry cleaner where I’ve been going for three years.  He gives me his name and the hours when the owner is typically at the store and says to be sure to mention that Dale sent me his way.

The next week I go to the dry cleaners when the owner will be there.

“What’s your last name?”

“Burns……B U R N S"

*the owner is standing a few feet away*

“And your first name….”

The dance continues.

After completing the transaction I introduce myself to the owner of the shop and explain what I have shared with you here.

He shows little concern.  

He makes excuses.

He mentions that perhaps there exists a technology fix that he could institute. 

He says they will try harder and that he would definitely remember my name.

It hits me. 

My very social/relational brain is frustrated with what I see as lack of concern and care for a loyal customer.

His very analytical and structure-focused brain doesn’t see why the clerk knowing my name is important when the clothes are cleaned properly. 

We are looking at the world through very different filters.

His filters focus on efficiency and accuracy while mine focus on relationship. 

He looked at me as if I had a third eye in the middle of my forehead – and I’m quite certain my face was displaying confusion as I realized he really wasn’t all that concerned that his staff did not recognize their regulars. 

Since this conversation I’ve been back four times (2 times to drop off - 2 to pick up). 

“What’s your last name?”….

“Burns….B U R N S “

The dance continued.

Now I drive back to my old neighborhood – to the dry cleaner who not only remembers by name (even after three years) – but also asks about my dogs who she met years ago.


Chances are your customers look at the world through different filters than you --- personality, thinking preferences, generational, socio-economic, etc – Being able to meet your clientele where THEY are is key to growing and retaining the business relationship.  The first step to doing this effectively is to hire for DIVERSITY of THOUGHT vs hiring a series of mini-mes who look at the world the same way you do.

More on mini-mes in future blog posts. 

I welcome your thoughts. 

Monday, October 6, 2008

Hello, Hola, Dobar den, Ciao, Guten Tag!


For as many differences as there are across cultures and geographic locations, there are some things I have found to be consistent. In each city and town I meet mothers and fathers who love their children and want to provide a better life for them.....regardless of the language or dialect, there is always a word or series of words to say hello, please, thank you, you're welcome and it is nice to meet you.

Consistently, within any population there are those willing to reach out and help a complete stranger --- including those who do not look like, sound like or act anything like they do.

On my most recent international journey (which started in Denver and went through Canada, Germany, Hungary and Serbia to Macedonia), I met people who were willing to reach out their hand to help a stranger. Lifting a suitcase into the overhead bin, offering translation assistance in shops and kiosks, demonstrating how the beds of a sleeper car fold down, sharing their meal, providing directions...the list goes on and on.

For two weeks during this adventure I have had the distinct pleasure of working side-by-side with members of the Habitat Global Village Team (13 from across North America) as we partnered with volunteers from Macedonia to work on a home for a family in Veles, Macedonia. For the most part, the team members were strangers to one another having been introduced a few days or a few minutes before starting to work together.

Together this team dug trenches, cleared brush, loaded/unloaded lumber, cut re bar wire, etc. What a wonderful experience to be able to part of this incredible team and witness their interaction firsthand!

The team represented quite a mix.....
  • 22 to 76 years of age
  • Men & Women
  • First international trip to third passport in past fifteen years
  • MBAs and lawyers to high school graduates
  • Canadian, Mexican, American, Macedonian
  • No less than 5 distinct religions represented
  • Analytical, Social/Relational, Structural and Conceptual thinkers
.....and together we laughed, joked and worked in the heat of the Macedonian sun. All for the good of a family we met only a few days ago. And yet more than the family is benefiting --- we have all learned from one another ---- through our differences we built a stronger, more functional and innovative team!

It's amazing how much was accomplished by ~22 strangers working together.

Are the differences on your team drawing you together or forcing you apart?

Learn how to connect with those who have difference approaches to life in my engaging, energetic and insightful workshop "Meetings of the Minds : High Impact Communication Through Emergenetics" --- you'll be glad you did!

For a preview of Emergenetics and my facilitation style click here (or search YouTube for "Insightful Endeavors".

Wishing you the very best with all your endeavors,

Nora A Burns, SPHR
www.insightfulendeavors.com




Nora A. Burns, SPHR is Founder and President of Insightful Endeavors International, (IEI), Inc. IEI specializes in building innovative, sustainable teams to drive bottom-line results. In addition to working with corporations and associations, IEI offers public workshops across the United States.


Registration for Nora’s upcoming workshops available here.